Don’t fucking waste your life.

So many people are waking up after 10, 20, 30 years, and realize that they have fucked up because they took the road most commonly traveled instead of the one less traveled.

A lot of them have done it out of ambition that was fabricated for them. Their path was carved out of desperation instead of inspiration. A man or woman who has chosen a genuine path because that path makes them happy is successful.

We have to close our eyes and dare ask ourselves the question: “What would truly make me happy? What if I did not care about other people’s opinions? What would I really do? What would I say? How would I behave?

It’s great that more and more people are deciding to be farmers, cobblers, artisans instead of lawyers, entrepreneurs, or doctors. Not that there is anything wrong with all those careers. The real problem is in the glorification, glamorization, and status we place on them.

We put them so high on a pedestal, it seems like nothing else is worth pursuing outside of those “successful” careers. Money, status, fame are put on top of the priorities when it comes to success.

Falling short is seen as failure and therefore makes anybody who does not fill that mold automatically a loser. That’s why millions and millions of young men and women go in the direction of the noises not in the direction of the silence of their hearts, not in the direction of the stillness of their hearts where the GPS will actually point you in the best direction for YOU.

The GPS most people are listening to, is the one from their parents, the one from their peers, the one from society, the one from media, the one from their smaller self.

Down the road it leads to only frustration, bitterness, regret, and hatred. Now we hate the world and ourselves for straying away so far from what we really wanted to do, from who we really wanted to be.

Gary Vaynerchuk is 1000% right to reframe success because the way we are wired right now will only lead to the demise of countless men and women.

We need to teach younger men and women to truly listen to their intuition. To truly take the time to try things. I tried so many things and it took me 28 years to realize that I was not doing something wrong.

The generation of our parents usually kept the nose to the grindstone and kept the same job, for the same company for most of their professional lives regardless of whether it was really what they wanted to do or not.

They also married earlier, had kids earlier. One salary was enough to support a household. There was not tinder. There was no sexual liberation. There was no feminism. There was no streaming. There was no porn. There was no social media. There were no smartphones and the list goes on…

I am not criticizing all that I have stated above. Everything has pros and cons. What I am trying to say is that the world has changed significantly and radically since our parent’s time and the world keeps on changing at a rapid pace.

For us younger generations and the one after that, we have to understand that our parents are doing their best. There are trying to adapt to a world that is completely the opposite of what they were accustomed to when they were our age.

We can’t do it their way anymore. Yes, you might disappoint them for a while but ultimately there will understand that you are only doing what your heart is telling you to do.

In the Bollywood movie 3 Idiots, one of the main characters Farad is in love with photography. However, his father is hell-bent on making his son an engineer.

India and other parts of the world have a real problem when it comes to parenting kids into becoming what they want for them instead of listening to what the kids truly want for themselves.

The main character of the movie had sent a letter behind Farad’s back to a famous photographer to apply for an internship.

Farad got a positive response and was accepted. It was a dream come true but he feared his father’s reaction. His friend told him that he needed to face his father and speak from the heart.

His father had just bought Farad a new computer. He and his wife were surprised to see Farad at home so early because he was supposed to go for interviews.

The parents asked him what was going on. He answered by saying that he will not be an engineer. His parents were shocked. Farad told them that he would be a terrible engineer and that his passion was photography.

His father was furious. He could not accept it. He told Farad that people will laugh at him when they have big houses, cars, and more money. His father also told him that he will curse himself when he sees the success of his peers.

Farad answered his father by saying that if he chooses to be an engineer, he will end up cursing him. And that he would rather curse himself than him. His father was speechless.

Farad took his father’s hands and said: “Father what will happen if I become a photographer? I will have less money, a smaller house but I will be happy. I will really be happy. Whatever I do for you will be genuine and from the heart.”

His father was speechless. He stood up and turned his back to Farad. He went to the computer and said: “How much does a camera cost? Take this computer back and get a camera instead. If you need more money, we will support you. Go live your life son”

I can’t watch this scene without being emotional because it hits my heart in so many ways because I have been in this situation.

For the parents who are reading, please listen to your kids. Listen to what they want and support them in fulfilling their greatest potential.

For the younger men and women, please dare to listen to your hearts in spite of what anybody else is telling you. Please dare to be YOU. Please dare to authentic. Please be brave enough to listen to the critics and take the feedback but more importantly please listen to yourself because that is the voice that should be the loudest.

Please also do not care so much about status, material gains, and money. Those things are not necessarily bad but they are bad if you do it to conform to the opinion of others.

Live your life and be happy and grateful to be the greatest you, you can possibly be. Whatever you want to be, if you want to be a beekeeper, a stay-at-home Dad, a female CEO, whatever the case might be. Do you and appreciate YOU.

Dare to be still, dare to be a bit more selfish, dare to be authentic, dare to go after what brings you joy. Allow yourself to be happy. Allow yourself to love yourself. Allow yourself to make mistakes. Know that you have time. Know that following one’s heart means a lot of heartbreaks but ultimately it will give you the wisdom, compassion, love, the joy that truly makes life an amazing gift.

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